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Navigating the complex world of child custody can be intimidating, especially when you're seeking sole custody. When parents separate or divorce, one of the most important and often contentious issues they face is determining the custody of their children. In some cases, joint custody – where both parents share legal and physical custody – is the best solution. However, in certain situations, one parent may need to seek sole legal and/or physical custody.

In this blog, we examine the steps needed to secure sole custody, while also exploring the reasons why you may need to make this choice for the best outcome for your child(ren).

What is Sole Legal Custody?

Before diving into the steps on how to obtain sole custody, it's essential to understand what it means. Sole legal custody is a legal term referring to when one parent has legal custody of a child. The parent with sole “legal” custody makes all major decisions about the child's life, including education, healthcare, and religion, without having to consult with the other parent.

Common Reasons Parents Seek Sole Legal Custody

There are distinct reasons why a parent might seek sole legal custody. These could include situations where the other parent is absent, abusive, neglectful, or suffering from addiction. It's crucial to remember that courts prefer to prioritize the child's best interests when deciding on custody matters – whether that means sole custody or not. Courts also prefer that both parents be involved in the child’s life, when that is what is best for the child.

Steps to Obtain Sole Physical and/or Legal Custody

Obtaining sole custody requires a thorough understanding of the legal process, detailed preparation, and patience.

Here's a step-by-step guide to help you navigate this journey:

  • Hire a Family Lawyer:
  • A seasoned family law attorney with experience handling child custody cases is an invaluable asset. Once you have an attorney, they can guide you through the legal process, help you prepare your case, and represent you in court.
  • Gather Evidence:
  • Building a compelling case is critical when seeking sole custody. Collect all the relevant evidence in your case that demonstrates your ability to provide a stable, nurturing, and positive environment for your child. This can include proof of financial stability,
  • a safe home environment, and your involvement in your child's life. And why are you the better parent for the situation?
  • File a Petition:
  • You will need to complete all the paperwork and file a Request for

Order for sole custody with your local family court. Your lawyer can guide you through this process, ensuring you have all the documentation needed to file your request.

  • Prepare for the Court ordered Family Court Services (FCS) mediation.
  • This is mandatory in San Diego and it is crucial that you are prepared and
  • go in with a gameplan. The Judge often will follow FCS’s recommendation.
  • Prepare for the Custody Hearing:
  • Before the hearing, prepare yourself mentally and emotionally. Review your case thoroughly with your lawyer. Prepare for court by examining potential questions and focusing on how you will present your case. It’s really important to have an attorney that knows
  • how to explain the FCS recommendation to you and that will take the time to discuss what changes you want so that those requests can be asked of the other party and/or the Judge.
  • After the Decision:
  • Once the judge has made their decision, it's important to respect and abide by it. If you're granted sole custody, remember that it's a significant responsibility.
  • Upholding Your Responsibilities:
  • With sole legal custody comes the exclusive responsibility for your child's wellbeing. It's essential to uphold these responsibilities and provide a loving, nurturing environment for your child.
  • Dealing with a Negative Outcome:
  • If the judge doesn't grant you sole custody, it's important to understand why. Discuss the outcome with your lawyer and consider your options moving forward, which may include appealing the decision or working towards changing the custody agreement in the
  • future.

Remember, the journey to obtaining sole custody can be a long and challenging one. Keep your child's best interests at heart and don't let your emotions cloud your judgment. With patience, perseverance, and professional guidance, you can navigate this process effectively.

Contact the Child Custody Attorney at the Law Office of Andrea Schneider

While the process of obtaining sole custody can be complex and emotionally draining, it's crucial to keep your child's best interests at heart throughout. With careful preparation, legal guidance, and a focus on providing a stable and loving environment for your child, you can navigate this challenging journey successfully. Remember, the goal is to ensure the well-being and happiness of your child, regardless of the custody arrangement.

Call the Law Offices of Andrea Schneider today at (619) 304-8499 for legal support and guidance. We can help you outline the details of your modification.